Archive for April, 2010

I had a dream last night that I wanted to share with you.
 
In the dream I met a woman and she asked me how old I was and I told her.  She looked surprised and went to get her husband to see me.  She then told him how old I was.  He said “she looks good for not being photoshoped”. Strange dream
 
For those of you who do not know photoshop, what photoshop can do is change an image to make it look very different from the original.  So if you have a photo of yourself and it is altered in photoshop you could look years younger.
 
I wanted to talk to you about this today because of how important it is that when you are involved in online dating you put up a picture that looks like you now – not 10 or so years ago.  I know it is tempting if they are a few lines or not as much hair, but keep in mind that you wanting to meet your mate and that means actually meet them – in person.  So if you don’t use an up-to-date photo in the beginning your first meeting could be quite a shock.

I was reading an article today about online dating and saw this statement “I only contact active members within the last 24 hours”.  I wonder how many online daters do this. Do You?

When I was online dating I did look at last activity time/date.  It didn’t rule what I did, but I sure considered it.  One day I received a email of ‘potential matches’ and there was one of a man that I thought look interesting.  I read his profile and I was even more interested.  Then I looked at his last activity date and it showed he had not been active for 6 months.  I sighed and thought he must have found someone.

This man I found interesting kept running through my mind as the evening went on and so I decided why not message him.  If he doesn’t answer at least I know I tried.  He did answer – plus he had been active but just went from free to a paid account so it was showing his old status. 

Luckily I didn’t pay attention to the activity date, luckily I didn’t delete the email, luckily I contacted him, luckily our first date went wonderfully and now we have been married for almost 7 years.

So don’t always turn away when the activity date doesn’t look good.

Jan

http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/

I have talked about this before, but I want to talk to you about it again because of how ‘mainstream’ this has become.

These days, the world we live in, means that the chances of connecting with anyone, other than through work or family, is slim. Everything happens to fast. We are all so un-connected.

Online dating is a way to connect and it is now so acceptable. Just watch TV and you see commercials promoting online dating. That tells us that yes it is ok and yes we can try it – and yes it works!

For so many out there (and I was one of them) it is taking the first step. And the first step is finding information that can help you decide not only what online dating site you should try, but what to do once you decide. That is why I created Online Dating Resources. I have been there, done that, and am happily married to the man I met online. So let me help you!

First is to decide what online dating site is right for you. At Online Dating Resources I have many different sites for you to choose from and reviews of each so you can make an educated decision. I also have written articles to help you with creating a profile, talking online, meeting off line for the first time and beyond.

Check it all out here:
http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/
Bookmark it and come back often.

I would love to hear about successes!

Jan