Yes You Can Find Love!


I spoke with a woman the other night who told me that she had been through an online dating site, met the man, thought it would last forever, and was "taken to the cleaners" both emotionally and financially. She asked me if I thought there was a chance for her to find "love" out there, even though she is not too secure about online dating sites anymore (for some solid reasons).

My answer to her was a big YES!!!

I have "been there - done that" when it comes to bad experiences from meeting someone from an online dating site. But I think one of the things we all forget is that this happens more in 'real life' than it does with someone we meet this way.

Just think about it...

A friend sets you up with a blind date, who turns out to be a jock who only wants to get 'off' whether it is with you or someone else. Or you connect with someone in a club and they take you back to their place for 'coffee' only to find out that the Mrs. (that you did not know existed) came home early.

Come on...real life is way hardrer, and can be more risky, than meeting someone through an online dating site.

When you meet someone online you have the chance to get to know 'them' so much better than you can through a 'blind date' or 'club mate'. You can talk on the computer for hours, talk on the phone for hours, exchange pics and so much more before you ever meet. Doesn't this sound better?

Sure, everything in life is 'taking a chance'. But I can honestly say, in all good faith, that taking a chance with online dating can be the best thing you ever did. Why you ask... click here to check out About Us

You can also read many more articles I have on the site to help you find your love online, such as Second Time Around and my special Tips for Women and Tips for Men.

I promise I will be totally honest in all respects, about the good and bad of online dating...so come on in, the water is fine :)

www.onlinedatingresources.com

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Leith



Come on, whisper in my ear.....
- posted by Leith @ 8:41 PM

 
When the connection goes sideways


I read an article in the paper tonight about a woman who met a man through an online dating site and was 'taken' for over $4,000.00.

Basically the story was that she was drawn to him because he presented himself as a spiritual, loving, kind hearted, gentle soul (who wouldn't be drawn to someone like that!). They met and spent some time together. He gained her trust to the point that when he asked her to cash several money orders for him (because he could not find his bank card) she did. Of course they bounced. There's more, but that is enough for this piece.

First, I have to say that I feel terrible for this women, who not only lost this money, especially from someone she felt a strong connection to, someone she trusted, but no doubt she has also lost some faith in herself. From what the article said, she will not see a penny of it.

Second, PLEASE, anyone, whether female or male, when you meet someone from online dating, chat, etc., and they want you to do any financial favours, RUN don't walk!! I don't mean that there won't be circumstances, after a good length of time, that you will know you CAN trust someone, but chances are if someone is looking for you to do something for you financially there is something very wrong. Just be careful.

This does not mean this woman was, quote, stupid. What it does mean is that there are a lot of us out there that trust someone until we are proven wrong (me included). That is not a bad thing, but we have to have some (hopefully) common sense and not let our emotions take us places we don't want to go.

Online dating is not a bad thing. We all know bad things happen whether it is someone you meet at a party, in a coffee shop, blind date, or online. We just need to not allow our emotions to take over some common sense.

So on this weekend when you go online to find your 'soulmate' DO remember your soulmate is out there, but also remember there are users out there as well. Try to not only "feel" your heart, but also "listen" to it.

I have many articles on my site about different areas of online dating, as well as some great articles from a relationship coach, so do drop by www.onlinedatingresources.com

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Leith



Come on, whisper in my ear.....
- posted by Leith @ 8:32 PM