Online Dating - A Fair Of Love
Saturday, July 30, 2005
Online Dating Specialty Sites - "Must Love Dogs"
"Must Love Dogs"
Preschool teacher Sarah Hurlihy (Diane Lane), who has sworn off dating after being divorced for 8 months, finds her family pushing her back into the dating world. Her sister Carol (Elizabeth Perkins) places a personal ad for her on Perfect Match, declaring that anyone answering it "must love dogs," A movie..happy ending...you bet!
Interesting for a movie to do a topic like this when you realize how many specialty online dating sites there are out there. For example:
SportsFriends.com
Deaf Singles Connection
MilitaryFriends.com
GothicMatch.com
View more at: Online Dating Resources
So for online dating, "Must Love Dogs" is part of the growing needs of specialty online dating sites.
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Sunday, July 17, 2005
A New Twist On Arranged Marriage
There was an article in today's paper about a couple who met online and will be married at the end of the month. Congrats!
I wanted to share with you the approach she took that paid off. She said "I realized it really was the new way to meet people".
With that in mind, she was clear and precise on who she was looking for:
- height
- colour of hair
- colour of eyes
- minimum education level
- love sports
- never been married
- no children
- a particular religious background
- high morals
- like animals
- have siblings
- live within a certain radius of her location
Now that's really knowine exactly what you want, and I think that can be a problem sometimes when people go to an online dating site and they are not really sure what they want in a mate. So have a look at this and make one up of your own so the next time you are at an online dating membership site you will almost be able to see him/her.
There is a great list of online dating membership sites at this link: http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/love-links.htm so get that list done and find your soul mate!
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Saturday, July 16, 2005
Long Distance Reltionship - Send Love
You and your online love live states/provinces or even countries apart. Sure you email daily and talk on the phone as often as you can, but have you ever asked yourself what else you could do to "keep the spark going"?
Romantic Package
This idea will be fairly easy for women, for men it may be a bit more difficult. But trust me, you will almost feel the hug when she receives it because she will be soooooooooooooo thrilled!
Gift Ideas
1. A CD of all your favorite songs, or your (you and her) favorit CD.
2. Scented candles (best if you know what she likes) and a couple of beautiful candle holders.
3. A book of love poetry.
4. Dried flowers, preferrably from your garden. Or potpourri if you don't have a graden.
5. A picture of the two of you together in a romantic frame. If you have not met yet so don't have a picture, send one of you with a romantic saying and sign it.
6. A romantic card. You may not think is necessary with everything else you are sending but trust me, women love cards and she will save it forever.
Put all of your 'goodies' in a beautiful box and wrap in very carefully, add ribbon and a bow for good measure. Not good at wrapping? Ask a female friend to help.
For other ideas on romantic gifts visit http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/links-to-experience.htm
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Sunday, July 10, 2005
Improve Your Relationship
Each relationship we have is somewhat of a mirror showing us who we are and how we appear. We then have the chance to decide if we like what we see in the mirror, of if we want to change.
Some of the key coaching rules about relationships are:
1. You can’t change other people so stop trying. Instead, if you don’t feel good about the person or the relationship, change the situation since you cannot change another.
2. If you don’t like what you see in the mirror, know what you want to change. Like attracts like. So when you are acting a certain way, being a certain way or thinking or feeling a certain way, you will attract exactly those relationships right to you. If you don’t like the relationships you are in, notice what your own behaviors are. What is your self-talk? What energy and feelings are you putting out? If you want to attract something different you must BE something different. You get what you think and feel about.
Read more here: http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/TerriLevineDatingCoach.htm
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Thursday, July 07, 2005
Wondering How to Find Your Soul Mate?
Start by visualizing what you do want in a mate and what you do not want in a mate. Think about those you have dated, friends you know, and even partners of those friends. What qualities do attract you? Which do you not find appealing.
Think about where your ideal mate might hang out. Do they read? Will they be at Border’s, Barnes and Noble? Do they drink coffee? Maybe they’ll be at Starbucks. What clubs or hobbies will they partake in; you can join them there. Maybe it’s a health club or networking group or even at a single’s club.
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Monday, July 04, 2005
Is Physical Attraction Enough?
So you finally meet in person and you know that the connection is not love and never will be love, but, hey, you are wonderful together in the sack. Is that enough?
Reasons You Have Sex Too Soon:
· Just a need for sex, no matter who.
· You want your new 'online/offline love' to love you.
· A curiosity to find out if there's any chemistry. This is big, of course.
· An attempt to solidify the relationship.
More than anything else it depends on what you are looking for.
If you are happy to spend time with this person, even if it is purely sexual, and they are in agreement, no problem. Just make sure you are open up front, both of you. If one or the other has expectations that things may change in the future, and you know it never will, say so right up front.
There are plenty of online dating sites where you can find sexual partners if that is what you want and avoid hurting the other person if they want more than you can give them.
Read more here: www.onlinedatingresources.com
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Sunday, July 03, 2005
Can You Find True Love Online?
Online dating is no longer just for a select few. People from all walks of life, both young and old, are increasingly turning to the internet/online dating sites in search of romance. My advice is not to stick with one dating site but join as many as you can. There are thousands of singles out there and who knows one of them might just be your true love!
Sure, the dating horror stories remain. It seems common the a lot of people misrepresent their appearance or their profession, but the success stories are growing. The answer is increasingly yes you can find your true love online using an online dating service.
Just remember, until you've actually spent time with your online love, and got to know them in person, you can't truely be in love with this person. You only know what they are saying to you, not always how they really are. And week/weeks/month/months isn't a lot of time to know someone well enough to fall in love. If you think you could be in love with this person it is possible, but wait to finally decide when you actually meet in person.
Ahhhhhhhhhh chemistry :)
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
Friday, July 01, 2005
Online Dating and Cybersex
I'm sure there are many out there that think these two 'statements' don't go together, but when you are in an online dating long distance relationship chances are the subject will come up. When you are involved in online dating, especially if you have met and already been intimate, this would, of course, be something you would think of sharing. For this reason it would be a 'norm' rather than than 'unusual' to partake in this activity. I have read that nine out of ten online cybersex partners live far away. The next best thing to being with your online love, in person, seems to be masturbating, either during, or after cybersex. It is keeping the love relationship intimate, as best you can, at a distance.
Outside of an online dating relationship:
Don't get me wrong, cybersex can, and does, happen outside of an online dating relationship. One of the attractions of cybersex is that you can be anyone you want to be and say anything you want to say. Nice girls can be naughty. Men can even be women, or pretend to be gay, depending on their 'sexual interest'. It's common for cybersex individuals to assume different personalities. This is the height of sexual fantasy, and fantasies, in truth, are the stuff that cybsersex is made of. In any case, remember cybersex is "real". At least to some of the people you will meet online. So never underestimate its power.
While most people/participants are honest, even the most reluctant participant may find that there is another, wilder side of themselves that emerges when they begin to explore their fantasies online. Cybersex, to some, is better than porn because it's free, it's there 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, it's interactive, with a real person on the other end, and they will never truely know who you are, even if you use a cam. In truth, interatactive live porn, in this case.
One of the problems in participating in cybersex is that people tend to romanticize their online relationships, which can result in fun filled, fantasy adventure, or heartbreak. People in live-in/marriage relationships still, in most cases, do not believe that online romance could ever take the place of a real relationship. However, the husbands/ wives/partners of cybersex addicts are discovering that cybersex can pose a direct threat to their relationships/marriages, and do. Go online and read some of the divorce case documents and you will see, if you haven't met anyone "yet" who has been touched by this.
So whether in an long distance relationship or just out for some fun, you might want to put your vibrator, and or towel, by your computer. In the majority of cases, cybersex does not harm anyone!
Read more here:
http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/cybersex.htm and there are some books to help you as well!
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**Leith
Come on, whisper in my ear.....
