Online dating resources
January 23, 2011 | 
Author There was an article in the paper this morning about a man, who is on several online dating sites, who steals from woman that he dates. They know of 5 instances but there could be more. The last one he stole her car. It made me think I should talk about this subject again.
There are a number of security and safety issues to consider when you are communicating online, whether it is instant messenger, in chat rooms, forums or through online dating sites.
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Do you know that if you close your eyes and see the person you want to be with you can? Seriously! Trust me, I did it.
What you need to do is see – in your minds eye – exactly who it is you want to be with. Focus on your technicolor vision of your Ideal Mate. See and feel, hear and smell, and taste fully what life will be like with that person. Where will you be? What will you be doing? What will you be wearing? Tasting? Touching? Feeling?
What you “see” is what you can bring to you through online dating. What you can “see” when you go to an online dating site is going to give you more of a chance of finding that person you ‘seek’ and ‘see’ because you already know who it is, just not their name – yet!
Love is out there and online dating is, in my opinion, one of the best ways to really find the one you ‘see’ and ‘seek’. I did and you can too!
When you find that someone special at an online dating site you spend a lot of time communicating. You may have even moved to talking on the phone. I know from my own experience that you learn more about the person, in such a short time, than you ever would in real life. think because you are so focused, no distractions.
The first ‘off line’ date can be very exciting and scary. There are a lot of “what ifs”. There are several things to keep in mind:
* If you have been honest, and I strongly recommend that you are completely honest, then the person you have communicated with and the picture you have seen will be the same (or pretty similar).
* Try not to expect the immediate love ‘chemistry’. That’s not to say it won’t be there but sometimes it takes a bit of time to kick in.
If the first date does not go as well as expected don’t give up right away. Keep in mind that this was the person you have been sharing so much time with.
I invite you to read my full article here:
http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/love-or-infatuation-tips.html
Happy Online Dating!
In fact, yes you can yes you can get “high” from Online Dating.
A report from England states that people can get “high” from trying online dating. What is the “high”. It is anticipation of romance and love… endorphins the flow through us that say ‘yes he/she may be the one and I am so happy’. Some people find the ‘rush’ from endorphins addictive.
Is there anything wrong with this, not at all. Just make sure that in your “high” you think with your head, as well your heart, so you don’t make any mistakes.
Always keep in mind the person you want to find, the love you want to find, keep focused. When the “high” hits make sure you know that it is the person you are really interested in and not just the excitement.
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Many people make a decision to try online dating because they think that dating people online is probably the fastest, surest and most effective way to go.
This can be true, but if you REALLY want to find the love of your life there are some steps I think you need to take first.
Write a list. Yes that’s right. Make sure you are clear on:
* What you do want and why. Make a list of the perfect mate for you. It is more imporatant to list everything first prior to the physical appearance. Why? If you find that pefect ‘one’ appearance is always secondary, unless that is all you care about. If that is the case don’t look for love, look for ‘lust’.
* What you don’t want. This list will go on the same page as what you do want, but cover such things as ‘going out with the guys/girls, drugs, etc.
* Visualize and feel what it would feel like to have what you want, this person, in your mind and in your heart. This is soooooooo important. When you know what it is you DO want and Do NOT want, you can almost see the person, feel them, touch them.
Keep this inside of you, and your heart, and ask the God(s) to help you find this person each time you go on your online dating site.
This was the most important step I took to find my love online (7 years married this year) other than both of us using Lavalife
I’d love to hear your success story!
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Well as most of us know, the highway to love can be full of ‘potholes’. Tonight I want to talk about the Should I or Shouldn’t I question.
No matter what age range you are in, when the weekend is about to arrive, and if you don’t have a ‘date’ or ‘boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner’, the thought of a weekend is dismal…right? It doesn’t have to be!
Online dating may be new to a few, familiar to some, and scary to others, but in truth this is not a new concept. If you think about emails or instant messenger, new connections are common.
If you wander into an online dating site, number one you can usually begin the process for free. Secondly, you can provide information in your profile as to whether you want male/female connections, what age group, among so many other things you require/desire. When you do this, always make sure you have a ‘handle’, something people will know you by that is not your real name (like “lovinu”). If you want to use your real name make sure it’s just your first name.
So, don’t let this weekend, or any weekend, alone get you down. Check out the information on my site http://www.onlinedatingresources.com , take the plunge, and try out an online dating service and see what happens. Chances are Sunday night will come along and you will not know where the time has gone. Bet you will have many new ‘friends’ as well!
The only thing I want to caution you about is please/please do not give out your real name, phone number or address until you know a person well. No matter how good it sounds, unless it is a friend of a friend DO NOT meet them in person, or if you are bound and determined to do that, make sure it is in a public place and you have told a friend where you are going and when you expect to be home. I will go into security in more detail in another post.
I will be here to help you along the online highway to Love!
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I had a dream last night that I wanted to share with you.
In the dream I met a woman and she asked me how old I was and I told her. She looked surprised and went to get her husband to see me. She then told him how old I was. He said “she looks good for not being photoshoped”. Strange dream 
For those of you who do not know photoshop, what photoshop can do is change an image to make it look very different from the original. So if you have a photo of yourself and it is altered in photoshop you could look years younger.
I wanted to talk to you about this today because of how important it is that when you are involved in online dating you put up a picture that looks like you now – not 10 or so years ago. I know it is tempting if they are a few lines or not as much hair, but keep in mind that you wanting to meet your mate and that means actually meet them – in person. So if you don’t use an up-to-date photo in the beginning your first meeting could be quite a shock.
I was reading an article today about online dating and saw this statement “I only contact active members within the last 24 hours”. I wonder how many online daters do this. Do You?
When I was online dating I did look at last activity time/date. It didn’t rule what I did, but I sure considered it. One day I received a email of ‘potential matches’ and there was one of a man that I thought look interesting. I read his profile and I was even more interested. Then I looked at his last activity date and it showed he had not been active for 6 months. I sighed and thought he must have found someone.
This man I found interesting kept running through my mind as the evening went on and so I decided why not message him. If he doesn’t answer at least I know I tried. He did answer – plus he had been active but just went from free to a paid account so it was showing his old status.
Luckily I didn’t pay attention to the activity date, luckily I didn’t delete the email, luckily I contacted him, luckily our first date went wonderfully and now we have been married for almost 7 years.
So don’t always turn away when the activity date doesn’t look good.
Jan
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I have talked about this before, but I want to talk to you about it again because of how ‘mainstream’ this has become.
These days, the world we live in, means that the chances of connecting with anyone, other than through work or family, is slim. Everything happens to fast. We are all so un-connected.
Online dating is a way to connect and it is now so acceptable. Just watch TV and you see commercials promoting online dating. That tells us that yes it is ok and yes we can try it – and yes it works!
For so many out there (and I was one of them) it is taking the first step. And the first step is finding information that can help you decide not only what online dating site you should try, but what to do once you decide. That is why I created Online Dating Resources. I have been there, done that, and am happily married to the man I met online. So let me help you!
First is to decide what online dating site is right for you. At Online Dating Resources I have many different sites for you to choose from and reviews of each so you can make an educated decision. I also have written articles to help you with creating a profile, talking online, meeting off line for the first time and beyond.
Check it all out here:
http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/
Bookmark it and come back often.
I would love to hear about successes!
Jan
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You and your online love live states/provinces or even countries apart. Sure you email daily and talk on the phone as often as you can, but have you ever asked yourself what else you could do to “keep the spark going”?
Romantic Package
This idea will be fairly easy for women, for men it may be a bit more difficult. But trust me, you will almost feel the hug when she/he receives it because she/he will be soooooooooooooo thrilled!
Gift Ideas
1. A CD of all your favorite songs, or your (you and her) favorit CD.
2. Scented candles (best if you know what she likes) and a couple of beautiful candle holders.
3. A book of love poetry.
4. Dried flowers, preferrably from your garden. Or potpourri if you don’t have a graden.
5. A picture of the two of you together in a romantic frame. If you have not met yet send one of you with a romantic saying and sign it.
6. Put all of your ‘goodies’ in a beautiful box and wrap it up and send.
A long distance love relationship can be very difficult and stressful. When you do all you can your long distance love relationship has an above average chance of lasting forever because of the difficulties of being apart and all you have done to keep it together.
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