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Many people make a decision to try online dating because they think that dating people online is probably the fastest, surest and most effective way to go.

This can be true, but if you REALLY want to find the love of your life there are some steps I think you need to take first.

Write a list.  Yes that’s right.  Make sure you are clear on:

* What you do want and why. Make a list of the perfect mate for you. It is more imporatant to list everything first prior to the physical appearance. Why? If you find that pefect ‘one’ appearance is always secondary, unless that is all you care about. If that is the case don’t look for love, look for ‘lust’.

* What you don’t want. This list will go on the same page as what you do want, but cover such things as ‘going out with the guys/girls, drugs, etc.

* Visualize and feel what it would feel like to have what you want, this person, in your mind and in your heart. This is soooooooo important. When you know what it is you DO want and Do NOT want, you can almost see the person, feel them, touch them.

Keep this inside of you, and your heart, and ask the God(s) to help you find this person each time you go on your online dating site.

This was the most important step I took to find my love online (7 years married this year) other than both of us using Lavalife

I’d love to hear your success story!

http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/

Well as most of us know, the highway to love can be full of ‘potholes’.  Tonight I want to talk about the Should I or Shouldn’t I question.
 
No matter what age range you are in, when the weekend is about to arrive, and if you don’t have a ‘date’ or ‘boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/partner’, the thought of a weekend is dismal…right? It doesn’t have to be!
 
Online dating may be new to a few, familiar to some, and scary to others, but in truth this is not a new concept. If you think about emails or instant messenger, new connections are common.
 
If you wander into an online dating site, number one you can usually begin the process for free. Secondly, you can provide information in your profile as to whether you want male/female connections, what age group, among so many other things you require/desire. When you do this, always make sure you have a ‘handle’, something people will know you by that is not your real name (like “lovinu”). If you want to use your real name make sure it’s just your first name.
 
So, don’t let this weekend, or any weekend, alone get you down. Check out the information on my site http://www.onlinedatingresources.com , take the plunge, and try out an online dating service and see what happens. Chances are Sunday night will come along and you will not know where the time has gone. Bet you will have many new ‘friends’ as well!
 
The only thing I want to caution you about is please/please do not give out your real name, phone number or address until you know a person well. No matter how good it sounds, unless it is a friend of a friend DO NOT meet them in person, or if you are bound and determined to do that, make sure it is in a public place and you have told a friend where you are going and when you expect to be home. I will go into security in more detail in another post.
 
I will be here to help you along the online highway to Love!

I had a dream last night that I wanted to share with you.
 
In the dream I met a woman and she asked me how old I was and I told her.  She looked surprised and went to get her husband to see me.  She then told him how old I was.  He said “she looks good for not being photoshoped”. Strange dream
 
For those of you who do not know photoshop, what photoshop can do is change an image to make it look very different from the original.  So if you have a photo of yourself and it is altered in photoshop you could look years younger.
 
I wanted to talk to you about this today because of how important it is that when you are involved in online dating you put up a picture that looks like you now – not 10 or so years ago.  I know it is tempting if they are a few lines or not as much hair, but keep in mind that you wanting to meet your mate and that means actually meet them – in person.  So if you don’t use an up-to-date photo in the beginning your first meeting could be quite a shock.

I was reading an article today about online dating and saw this statement “I only contact active members within the last 24 hours”.  I wonder how many online daters do this. Do You?

When I was online dating I did look at last activity time/date.  It didn’t rule what I did, but I sure considered it.  One day I received a email of ‘potential matches’ and there was one of a man that I thought look interesting.  I read his profile and I was even more interested.  Then I looked at his last activity date and it showed he had not been active for 6 months.  I sighed and thought he must have found someone.

This man I found interesting kept running through my mind as the evening went on and so I decided why not message him.  If he doesn’t answer at least I know I tried.  He did answer – plus he had been active but just went from free to a paid account so it was showing his old status. 

Luckily I didn’t pay attention to the activity date, luckily I didn’t delete the email, luckily I contacted him, luckily our first date went wonderfully and now we have been married for almost 7 years.

So don’t always turn away when the activity date doesn’t look good.

Jan

http://www.onlinedatingresources.com/

You and your online love live states/provinces or even countries apart. Sure you email daily and talk on the phone as often as you can, but have you ever asked yourself what else you could do to “keep the spark going”?

Romantic Package

This idea will be fairly easy for women, for men it may be a bit more difficult. But trust me, you will almost feel the hug when she/he receives it because she/he will be soooooooooooooo thrilled!

Gift Ideas

1. A CD of all your favorite songs, or your (you and her) favorit CD.
2. Scented candles (best if you know what she likes) and a couple of beautiful candle holders.
3. A book of love poetry.
4. Dried flowers, preferrably from your garden. Or potpourri if you don’t have a graden.
5. A picture of the two of you together in a romantic frame. If you have not met yet send one of you with a romantic saying and sign it.
6. Put all of your ‘goodies’ in a beautiful box and wrap it up and send.

A long distance love relationship can be very difficult and stressful. When you do all you can your long distance love relationship has an above average chance of lasting forever because of the difficulties of being apart and all you have done to keep it together.

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The old year is over and the New Year has begun and we all hope for better things in our life. For those who are looking for love, this is when we hope that we will find our love, our soulmate –   ’this year’  – so we don’t have to be alone at this time next year.

You don’t!

Look at this process the same way you would the other changes in your life for the ‘new year’.  For example you may want to lose weight.  But if you say “I want to lose weight” that doesn’t give you a goal.  It is not detailed enough. ”I want to lose 10 pounds” does!  So when thinking of the love you want to find here are some ideas:

* I want a kind person
* I want a loving person
* I want a giving person
* I want a funny person
* I want to find a person who loves cats

Now, while you do this try to create the person, the love you are looking for, in your mind without the “looks”.  Try to build from the inside out. Why do I say that?  Well though what someone looks like does matter if they don’t have all the ‘inner’ attributes you are look for it doesn’t matter how they look because it will never work.

So… start you ‘new year’s list’ of to find your love online!

I’d love you to share you list with me

Jan