Online Love Making - Cybersex

Cybersex is now a common way of enjoying sexual relations with someone you know, or even someone you don't know, online. Cyber ex can be a thrill of a lifetime, or very dangerous, depending on the circumstances. I hope to help.

On this page I am not talking about video, I am strictly talking about text cyber sex. I will talk about that on a new page...coming soon.

Connecting Online Sexually-AKA Cybersex

The "make love not war" free love and sex era of the sixties and seventies has re-emerged online through what is known as "cyber sex". The beauty of this practice is that it is right at our fingertips (so to speak). Whether it is, email, instant messenger, a chat room or an online dating site, or the newest craze video dating, the world of Cyber sex is alive and well! Cybersex continues to grow as an addictive practice, both for closeness between lovers and, without a doubt, a pleasure seeking 'event' for sexual fantasy addicts looking for new and more daring erotic adventures, both in their mind and with their body.

Cybersex can happen with anyone, anywhere and at anytime. Is it not new. This online sexual practice has been going on for a long time, though it was probably called mutual masturbation, or something a bit nicer, before the word cybersex was invented.

Are There Dangers of Cybersex?

With single online lovers (or partners that are separated) I do not believe that cyber sex is dangerous. It is a very intimate way to communicate and love each other when you are apart. However, we read all the time that thousands, if not millions, of on-line sexual predators and/or addicts looking for new and more daring erotic adventures turn to cyber sex.

Basically, cyber sex has no boundaries and every sexual fantasy you have ever had, or hadn't even thought of, can be had. Even some fantasizes you may not have thought of, depending on the person you hook up with, may be fulfilled and more.

If it is with someone you don't know, and have no idea of their age or if they are male or female, you can feel pretty awful after the fact if you find out what they told you is not the truth. Actually, you can feel pretty awful after the fact period. The other part of this, which will be discussed in another article, is when a cybersex lover arranges to meet you off-line.

What If I Want To Participate in Cybersex?

If you do, trusting the person you are going to engage in cyber sex with is critical before you can successfully explore the possibilities of cybersex, unless you are prepared to just (excuse me) get off and not care how or who it is with. If you do not care if 'love' is involved and it is only 'lust' then make sure:

They are male or female, depending on what you want
They are over the age of majority. Do everything you can to ensure this or you could, and will be charged. If you are unsure do not do it!
They are not doing this without the knowledge of a partner/spouse (if there is one) as this can cause major problems at the time and certainly in the future.

Relationship At Home & Cybersex

How can you integrate cyber sex relationships into a real life sexual experience with you and your spouse/partner? If you are doing this and not prepared to tell your spouse/partner then you have to admit that something is very wrong in the relationship. If you do decide to tell be prepared for the break-up and break-down of your relationship. On the other hand, it may surprise you to find out that your spouse/partner is doing the same thing you are. Be prepared to handle both outcomes.

My Partner Is & I Just Found Out!

There are a few things at work here. First, how did you find out? Did you suspect something and invade their privacy? Let's look at that one first.

Trust is a huge factor in a relationship. When you feel something is wrong it is best to talk to your partner before you go 'snooping'. If you partner denies, yet you still feel something is not quite right, then go with your gut. Only you can decide if what you are doing is right or wrong.

Once you find out that this is true your choices are limited. Either your confront your partner with the facts and face the fall-out from that, or you try to make your home life more exciting, sexually. If it was me, I'd walk, in all honesty. We all have to make our own choices.

....................to be continued

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Last Updated: June 19, 2005